My Five Questions
In my journey through life and my relationships, I believe I can come up with a few universal ones to post on this topic.
My first and foremost question would have to be;
Why do men believe it is not macho to show their true feelings for the woman they care/love in the presence of their friends/other men? This makes us, the woman you care/love, feel slighted and even less cared/loved.
Secondly, Why is it so difficult for a man to discuss his emotions with a woman? Woman definitely don't have any problems in this area. We realize you are perfectly aware of this fact. Especially since you probably complain to your buddies about it endlessly whenever you guys get together drinking and bowling. We women, that are your partners, wives etc., want to be more involved in your life. We feel you are keeping us closed out whenever you refuse to discuss your feelings with us. It's like you have a secret closet that says "do not enter".
Thirdly, Why is it whenever we are going somewhere you feel the urge to rush us women? As a woman I generally know how long it will take to get ready and even add an extra thirty minutes to that time in case of a "hair or clothing catastrophe". Yet, you are still standing around looking at your watch, tapping your foot, and saying "are you ready yet....it's xxxxx time". I know how to tell time and if I needed an update I would ask. Also, I realize men, to borrow a cliche', 9 out of 10 times get lost the first time whenever they go to a new place, and I am even prepared in case. Because, I have already gone online and downloaded a map, from point A (the house) to point B (our destination) which includes even written directions. So give me a break will you!
Fourth, Why is it when I prepare a meal you don't like you won't just say so? The answer I get is "It was interesting". Interesting?! That sounds like we took a museum tour not ate a meal. Get real. I asked you if you liked the new recipe because I wanted your feedback. If I didn't want your opinion I wouldn't of asked for it. Be honest. Just say it like this: "It wasn't one of your best meals. I would prefer not to have it again" - that's the way not to hurt my feelings if you want it sugar-coated. Or just say "I really didn't like it, but I ate it anyways for you. But, don't make it again because I won't eat it again".
Fifth, Why is it whenever a woman asks if you want to do something, and if the man is interested (i.e. skinny-dipping), the answer is "if you want"? Why can't you give a straight answer? Say Yes not if you want-the woman would never have asked if she wasn't interested. Get a clue. Okay I know that was actually Why do men answer a question with another question?.....but it does get annoying when you do. Women may tend to do this sometimes. But, I feel we more or less miss doing it since we just continually talk on and on.
So those are my questions for the men out there and for my man. Most are applicable to be universally answered.
2 comments:
Most of these questions don't apply to me! For example, when we go out it's usually my wife who's nagging me to hurry up and get ready to go.
As for question #1? I feel that overt displays of affection make me look clingy and my wife look like she's my girl toy. It also sends the message to those near by to, "just get lost because we want our privacy." I think that displays of affection are best saved for those private times.
Overt displays yes.....but not holding hands as one may walk around the supermarket or just into the store. Or even rub the other's shoulder in between a few frames of bowling to loosen up tension if your spouse/partner seems to be tense while bowling & needs to loosen up. A quick peck on the cheek as you leave with the guys to the golf course. Those are not overt signs of affection, yet enough your woman know you care, and aren't afraid to express it in front of others.
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